It is not what you are served at someone's house that you remember as much as how you are greeted and welcomed by your host. You may be served a feast but not been made feel important. Emotions and feelings are subtler than the physical dimension of words and actions. Only when the actions of serving you, are aligned with the genuine intentions behind them, would you feel their authenticity. That is why it is important to focus on what is behind the obvious and be courageous and honest to respect your own feelings.
Would the mirror reflect a smile when you frown at it?